My mother with dementia wants to support my heroin-addict lowlife brother.
Brother is underemployed, constantly dumping his problems onto Mom, stressing her out, despite sis and my request to stop it. She reacts w/ great agitation and I'm afraid she will have a stroke. She is very controlling, thinks she's always right, insists I support him now with her money. Her judgment is WAY off when it comes to enabling him, which she has done off and on for years. I am in charge of all the finances. We've been trying to keep "the wolf" from the door by sending him small amts of cash to keep him reasonably satisfied. Very afraid that he will take her to a new atty to write a new will. We have a clearly defined Trust set up, this was done years ago with great care by both Mom and Dad. Dad is now deceased; he was our rock. Brother, after Mom's passing, will get $2K/mo for the rest of his life, but cannot access the principal. She is in a highend assisted living apartment, safe there, but he can come and go as he pleases. I am at my wit's end, balancing these two crazy people and all the damage they can potentially do.