My mother stresses when my brother and other family comes to visit.
She saw my brother grab me by the throat, he tells everyone that I attacked him (which isn't true) charges were not made due to the fact that my other brother backed him up.
When she gets stressed she has a harder time functioning. They believe (4 out 0f 7 children) I am stealing money . Which she has little. She is wheelchair bound with Parkinson's and I care for her 6 days a week with 10 hours off. I only get paid $1000. a month with room and board. It's the typical never sees her but maybe 2 times a year. They are very domineering and pushy. Critical of everything I do. Even though she is more healthy and happy since I took over as caregiver 2 1/2 years ago.
I promised my mom that I would keep her at home for as long as I can. It was right after my Dad died I feel like they are pushing me and her as far as they can.
She has enough money to live on but not enough or insurance to pay for a care home. They don't care how much I am saving her compared to previous caregivers or a facility. I want her to be happy. But I have a hard time dealing with them and Mom after they visit. It takes a lot of work to help her afterward. She goes completely in a zone and is tired for weeks.