Mother-in-law's stroke is ruining my marriage.
I really don't know whether to feel bad , guilty or be right . I'm not only married into a narcissistic family but the mother had a stroke 4 years ago , refused to rehab herself and demands that her children who has families stay with her along with care givers . She does have right side paralysis and can't talk but has her right mind trust me . She feels her kids owe her and their families aren't part of the importance to be taken care of before her . They refuse to put her in a nursing home which puts a strain on households time wise and fanatically . All kids are 50 to 60 years old . Some with small kids, college, grandparents and empty nesters who can finally enjoy the rest of their life but refuse to because some feel she comes before anything even wife's are left sick , kids events are missed and much more . Being a narcisstic son , I'm kept out of what's going on but required to except whatever and no questions asked . I guess my question is it wrong to feel it's my family that comes first along with trying to keep the quality of my marriage as to what's left of it a priority . All our kids are adults , in the military , college educated and we are grandparents of one 7 year old granddaughter . Our marriage is basically mute in many areas . He has only time for work and sit with his mom at nite when it's his turn and sleep at home leaving me to myself to travel and enjoy life at 50 . His mom does not need total care for anyone to stay all night and day . I'm I wrong to hate their situation to the point that I feel it's ruining our marriage and life ? 911 divorce is my next thought .