My Mother, who just turned 77, has lost 12 pounds in a month & has acid reflux. The gastroenterologist has put her on every medicine there is. She still has it but that's not the worst part. She started telling us that she justs wants to die. A month ago she had a fall but nothing was broken, she did have a slight scrape on her back. Since then she has essentially quit eating, barely drinks any liquid, will not walk, she is in a wheel chair now, does nothing for herself now. She does live in a nursing facility because she had a slight stroke 3 years ago & she wanted to get therapy & never recovered from that. I have taken her monthly to eye specialist, she claims she is blind, but she is not. She has worn sunglasses indoors for 3 years. So now she almost is. She constantly wants to go to the Dr. for her allergies,she has & is on Allegra, & the Dr. said he can't help he rbceause of her deviated septum. She refused to have it fixed. She sits in her shared room, no lights on, arms crossed & does not talk to her room mate or even her children. My brother was diagnosed with stage 4 tongue & throat cancer in September & we were all focused on him during his treatments. He is in remission but Mother gave up when he told her he had cancer. Mother now ways 90 pounds, I can see her bones in her head. Her eyes arre sunk back, her cheek bones are recessed, her arms are bones. When I try to encourage her to get out of the room she refuses. She doesn't eat or she picks at the food & might drink 1/2 cup of Ensure. I have 4 other siblings & we are at a loss. The physciatrist is upping her appetite enhancer/anti depressant & wants to give it 30 days to see if she improves. I want to have hospice come in to help but the they want us to wait to see if the med increase works. I am confused & need some encouragement, help, direction.