My mother died tonight.

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I visited Mom in the nursing home on Friday. Things were as usual. One sister visited her on Monday and played cards with her. The two other sisters who visited on Tuesday and Wednesday found her not herself at all, and complaining of back pain. Tonight the nursing home sent her to the hospital. She died en route.

I am so grateful that Mom had only a couple of days of not being herself and being in some pain. Lingering would have been very sad.

I am grateful to have had her in our lives so long. She was 96. Although she had dementia she knew us to the end and enjoyed our visits.

I am grateful that she accepted the nursing home and even seemed to enjoy it. She made friends. She was content.

I am grateful that my three sisters and I cooperated fully in taking care of her. We each emailed a brief report of every visit.

The last topic regarding our mother that my sisters and I emailed each other about was whether to use cloth or plastic table clothes at a family dinner we were organizing at the nursing home for her this month. I am grateful she was content and our focus could be on her pleasure right up to the end.

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Jeanne,
There are memories.
You shared your Mom with us
and yourself. So grateful here.
Sorry she is gone from you.
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Jeanne so sorry to read of your Mom's passing... Hugs..
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So sorry, Jeanne, for the loss of your dear mother. You are so very blessed to have a close and supportive family. May you find comfort knowing she no longer is in pain, and in the arms of our loving Father. May she rest in peace, and may you and your sisters continue supporting each other.
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So sorry, Jeanne. How you and your family looked after your mum was definitely a text book case on how to do it. I am glad she was not in pain for long. Thinking of you and yours at this time dealing with the aftermath. I am glad you are sticking around. Be sure to take care of yourself.
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Jeanne, I'm so sorry for the loss of your precious mother. My heart and prayers are truly with you.
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My thoughts are with you, Jeanne.
Pleased to hear you will not leave us here.
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I'm sorry about your mom. I'm also glad that you and your sisters were able to share with caring for her and not just one person. We all know that it's a rare family who pulls together at times like these. You and your family are one very close loving family.
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Jeannegibbs I am very sorry to learn of Your Mom's passing. It is so consoling to know Your beautiful Mother did not suffer for long and had Her complete awareness to the end. You and Your dear Sisters were wonderful Daughters, and I'm sure You will All celebrate Your Mom's long and wonderful Life, God Bless Her. You have been enormous help to Me through out My Caring of My own Mother Who passed away less than three months ago, RIP. Thank You jeannegibbs, You are a great Lady. From John Joe.
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Jeanne,
I am so ,so sorry you lost your dear Mother.What a wonderful job you and your sisters did .My prayers are with you tonight and in the days ahead.I hope you will continue to stay here.You have helped me many times.Take care and God Bless You,Lu
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Hi Jeanne, every one of your posts have been full of information and inspiration. This one about your Mom is no exception! To any of the newer posters on this site, I would encourage you to always give thought to Jeanne's postings. She is a wealth of knowledge. Your Mom was lucky to have you and your sibs, just as lucky as you were to have Mom. God bless you for all you have done for her and your husband and for the experiences you have shared here. Sending prayers your way . So happy you will be staying on the forum.
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