My mother died three years ago and I have been taking care of my father ever since.
I cannot thank you enough for the article. I never knew what to call the relationship between my father and family. I must admit he was born a narcissist and with old age mixed in, it is not pretty, add that to the family drama. He is now exploring "elder abuse". We have no social interaction, because as a female I do not have an opinion nor should I be treated as "anything" older than a 5 year old. I am angry frustrated and everything in between. I have children and a grandson and I have seen 3 times in the last 3 years. Once, to go to my daughter's wedding, once to bury my husband who died alone and I have no doubt my husband would be alive now if I had been at home with him. This has not made the situation with my dad any easier. Throw in family drama and I am at a loss. I know I need a break. I am burned out, depressed and used up, but can't walk away from him. Every time I plan to go home his health fails. Last time he ended in the hospital and it looks like we are headed there again. This time his doctor will put this on my shoulders as he "warned" me. I'm rambling. I apologize. I need some guidance here, please if there is a support group local or someone I can contact I would be so grateful.