Is it more difficult to take care of a newborn baby; or a parent with Alzheimer's/Dementia?

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A parent with dementia is more difficult to take care, of course.
A newborn may cry and cry for hours, every day. But eventually they will outgrow that in a couple of months. Even before age 1, they want to crawl and be independent from you. As toddlers, they learn to be potty trained and learn to shower, clean their butts on their own, feed themselves, make their own friends and learn to be independent.

With the elderly, they've been parents for decades. They will not listen to you - who is younger than them, or their children. Why would they listen to their children when they should be listening to them, the parents? So, right there, you have authority problems. With dementia, they are digressing. They can no longer go to the bathroom and properly shower or use the toilet. They forget how to wipe, to brush their teeth, to go to the bathroom (and soil themselves.) Have you ever tried to change pamper of an adult bedridden person? I can tell you right now, that it's not the same as a child. The adult dementia will be combative or aggressive. Their punches can actually hurt you - compared to a child hitting you from a temper tantrum. Instead of becoming independent, they will need more and more 24 hour care- which one person cannot do by themselves.

I've had one client tell me that caring for an elderly person is like caring for children. I was so pissed off, I set him straight. By the time I was done, the meek agent became a forceful person. When I was done giving him the comparisons, he sat there with this dazed look and said, "You're right. Caring for an elderly is nothing compared to a child." (He only Visited his dementia grandmother. He never did the 24/7 or the long hours of caregiving.)
Thank you; I really appreciated reading your answer.
Taking care of a newborn is a happy, sometimes difficult, happening in your life. Even if the baby is a big cryer, there are always hours during the day that he/she sleeps and you have some time to recover. Moreover, the crying becomes less, the newborns get bigger and learn to do various things themselves. So the need is becoming less, not more. This is the case with an Alzheimer's patient. The situation starts softly and becomes worse and worse. Forgetting things is the least of the problems. The psychological distress every day, with aggression, walking away and not finding back their way home, various things they do (for instance my husband dismantled our hi-fi installation in a hundred pieces or filling up the coffee machine 3 or 4 times so that your kitchen is a swimming pool) denying everything and the many insults you may hear nearly every day is much more difficult than raising a small kid. You need to be with them 24/24 because even at night, they walk away from bed and you have to go and look after them. You can not take them with you to the super market, because you keep busy getting things back in place which they had taken. NO ONE is able to take care of an Alzheimer's patient of any other person suffering from any other form of severe dementia. How difficult it has been for me before I finally could decide to take him to a specialized care centre, can not be written on 1 or 2 pages. I need a book to do that. Never underestimate someone who is taking care of a person with dementia. They all deserve a monument !! And certainly never blame him or her when the partner (or other family member) is finally sent to a specialized care centre.
My mom doesn't have alzheimers, but I certainly understand the physical aspect of caring for an elderly loved one. You can't tuck an elder in a car seat and go out. You can't set them in the crib or playpen secure in the knowledge that they are safe. You can't rock them and soothe them as a mother rocks her child. And it is for sure easier to dress and diaper an infant!
It is more difficult to take care of someone with Alzheimer's. Both babies and people with Alz require intense care, but the infancy period only last 2-3 years and gets better as the child grows. There are daycare centers with reasonable charges. Everyone loves babies. You get gifts and visitors. Alz can last 10 or more years and gets worse. Adult daycare is so expensive that many can't afford them. Friends and family drift off and soon you are there alone. You're lucky if you even get a Christmas present. Sad, isn't it?
No contest. A baby is much easy to care for. If that weren't true our species would have become extinct eons ago.
My dad died Tuesday morning; after 6 years of Alzheimer's type dementia. So many people compared it to taking care of a baby; and I thought "maybe it would have been easier taking care of him, IF I'd had a baby". I might have learned faster how to put his socks on his feet and scrunch up the legs of his pjs to make it easier to put on; instead of pulling them up endlessly. I really appreciate seeing the difference; everything went so fast and was so hard. When I went to the last caregiver support meeting; I realized I was in the wrong group. The people in my group were taking care of ones with traumatic brain injuries; and I was the only one taking care of someone with dementia. They all told of the progress their loved ones were making; and I realized; I was the only one who didn't have that. It just seemed like some people thought that this had been a piece of cake; they'd say "well I raised a lot of kids" but to me it seemed different. Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I guess I needed to see it written this way to help me feel like what I'd done for him; really had been as difficult as kids.
Let's not forget, when a baby tumbles onto the floor, you don't need to call 911 to help you pick him/her up.

A baby doesn't want to go shopping, and if you don't take them, they won't get the car keys and drive themselves.

A baby doesn't give our his/her social security number or credit care number to strangers on the telephone.

A baby loves toys and things to help make his/her life easier. An elder will push away such things saying that's for old people.
No question here, a newborn for a young (under 50 year old) is a piece of cake vs a dementia patient. No comparison at all.

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