New monkey wrench in handling safety issues.

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We've had a safety frame with elevated seat in my parents' bathroom since I've been here -- almost 7 years. Today Mom took the frame off the toilet and said she doesn't need it. She said it was what was making it harder to go. I told her it helped her get up and down safely. She said without it, she would be able to make her legs stronger. She said they are getting so weak now she can barely stand. I told her it is why the safety frame helps and she flew into a rage that she was NOT going to have the safety frame on the toilet anymore.


I left her alone a minute, then told her what was most likely going to happen if she didn't have the frame on the toilet. I told her that ultimately she was likely to fall and may end up in the hospital. She said she didn't care, and she was not going to put it back on the toilet.


So here we are with her being determined about something that I will worry about. She can't walk without her rollator because her balance is so poor. I see nothing good coming of this. I wish she was easier to care for. It seems like she is constantly coming up with ideas to make things harder.

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Squating no problem. unsquating would be my undoing. Now where is my "I've fallen and can't get up" button.
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Sendme2help, you are right about squatting. In fact on the TV show "Shark Tank" a couple came up with an idea of using a small step that once one is sitting on the toilet that you can move the step under your feet to help raise up one's legs. It's called the Squatty Potty and they have become a big seller. Bed, Bath & Beyond sells them.
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Really, I'll be the one with devil horns darting from aisle to aisle in the heavenly Wal-Mart, humming the theme from Mission Impossible.
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I'm saying this figuratively speaking and with complete sincerity- if there is a place for us after we die - and indeed a special section for caregivers - we will all be able to recognize you, JessieBelle- as your halo will be among the biggest and the brightest. My respect and admiration for you continues to grow!
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Win win win!!!! Great work, Jessie!
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Jessie, that's a great way of viewing the situation. You're right - it's a win-win for her, but for you as well, and you've found a successful solution for future events (and we both know there will be some).
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This is what I was hoping for. Good thing is that it was a win-win. She was able to keep control...

Actually, I just thought about both the win's being for her. She was able to keep control and she is able to keep safe because of her decision.
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So glad!!!! YAY!!!! A small but important victory.
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SUCCESS!!! You deserve it!
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Mom asked me to put the toilet frame back on the toilet this morning. She was having too much trouble getting up and down. I told her I was glad to do it, and it was nice the frame had two days in the sunshine to freshen it. All's well that ends well. I'm relieved to get this safety thing back in place.
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