I understand Mom's got it hard. But couldn't she just try for me?
I suggested that I would be happy to make a daily schedule for Mom so that she would do more during the day when I am at work than get showered and dressed, empty the dishwasher, and watch tv. She's 67, had a stroke. Executive functions are likely damaged, plus half her vision if gone. I can't tell if she forgets to do things or just chooses not to. She CAN do things - I've seen her. But she doesn't want to feel pressured, she says. A schedule would pressure her, she says.
Thing is, hubby would like to see her attempt to contribute to herself and make connections with others. I haven't told Mom this but I guess I'm going to now. She doesn't want to do something as simple as sit on the porch a little each day - maybe I don't want to do all the hundreds of things I do for her. She's lived much of her life avoiding unpleasant things. And she ended up a widow with clogged arteries which caused the stroke. She's here because she has no resources to live anywhere else in her present state.