My 93-year-old mom with dementia is very aggressive with me.

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I have vented about this before. I am the primary caregiver as I live in the same house as mom. These outbursts of rage at any given time, for no rhyme or reason are coming more frequently along with her hitting and now pulling my hair. My much younger sister who lives about 10 minutes away and visits when it is convenient for her does not want me to ask my mother's doctor for medication to calm my mother down. She doesn't live with this I do.

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Thank you BarbBrooklyn from one Brooklyn girl to another. 
Thank you Msmadge but after all these rage outbreaks and what it is doing to me and my husband, I do hope it acts like an elephant tranquilizer. I know that sounds harsh but I am desperate 
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I googled it:

How long does it take for Haldol® to work? A person should try Haloperidol for at least four to six weeks; this is when the maximum effects of the medication are usually seen. However, some symptoms such as hallucinations, anxiety, and paranoia should lessen within a few days to a few weeks.
Haldol (haloperidol) www.namihelps.org/assets/PDFs/fact-sheets/Medications/Haldol.pdf

If the rages are not lessening by Monday, I'd call the doctor back to discuss. Remember, the doctor won't know if you don't tell her/him.
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MsMadge is correct, Haldol is a pretty hefty drug and could make her a fall risk. Also watch for adverse effects. It has a black box warning that says: “Elderly patients with dementia related psychosis treated with atypical antipsychotic drugs are at an increased risk of death compared to placebo.” Black box warnings are serious.
Sometimes it's the only thing that works, but it has to be administered with great care.
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Haldol in a hospital setting was like an elephant tranquilizer on my mom

Be on the alert for lethargy which could make her a fall risk

Good luck
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I took mom to her doctor and told him about the rages. He took urine from her. No UTI. Examined her. Her BP is more normal than mine. Lungs clear. Heart rate excellent. Oxygen level 100%. She will probably outlive me. He gave her Haldol to take. 0.5mg twice a day. How long does it take for Haldol to kick in???? Can't be too soon for me. I just went through her raging about an hour ago.
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Yes, why can't your mother pay for your own care, and not have it be you? (Your sibs probably like the current situation, because they are probably paying you less for caregiving than an outsider would be paid.)
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It is good that your sibs see the need to have paid care for Mother. Why does it have to be you? What if you continue paying rent, and go back to work (if that is an option) and devote yourself to making the most of your time with your husband? And Mother's money is used to pay for her care.

Also, I agree with exploring medical solutions for her rage. If she were in her right mind, she'd be appalled at this behavior!
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Make sure you have her checked for a UTI. As you probably know a UTI can cause horrible behavior.
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My mom sees a geriatric doctor and was diagnosed with moderate dementia. My brother who is a CPA has POA. I am calling her doctor tomorrow morning to tell him about her behavior. Hopefully, he will give her something to calm this down. She has been doing this rage thing for a while and I noticed it was only on Thursdays. Why I don't know. I have tried to see a pattern or something that triggers this, but to no avail. This week she did it on Thursday, Friday, Saturday and Sunday. I have been walking on eggs and waiting for the other shoe to drop. I call tomorrow for sure!!
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