Mom's nursing home has been in quarantine for over a week due to stomach viruses and lots of sick people. She called Saturday and wanted to stay all night Saturday night and I said no. She called today and asked again. Her point was they are replacing the toilet in her bathroom and they have to use commodes. But, they aren't replacing it until 7:30 tomorrow morning and I doubt if it's going to take long.
I can't take her of at home for that long. I am not allowed to help her transfer because of problems with my shoulder/arm/back. She thinks she can care for herself, yet a week ago she told me she was too afraid to walk alone. I don't want to take her out of the home while they are on quarantine. She tells me every month it is her last month there, she refuses to stay longer. Normally she has a very unrealistic attitude about her own capabilities.
She pushes my buttons and then gets upset and says "sorry I bothered you, I won't do it again." Then it starts over. I understand she is miserable there, won't do activities, bad attitude, etc... That is her normal attitude. I know she hates spending that money, but I get so tired of having to tell her no, it would be disastrous to have her come home for overnight. She has bladder issues, I can't get up during the night and help her.
She is wearing me down, but coming home for overnight is a horrible idea. She even told me over the weekend, the nurse said it was okay. I don't know who or what to believe.