I think mom (86) with CHF is undergoing personality changes.
Her short term memory is not as great and she gets irriitable, understandably, b ecause she is suffering and lonely in her home. My two brothers help out and I try to, but have health issues. I do listen to her on the phone, BUT, she becomes very angry with me at times, especially if she thinks I am criticizing my brothers. She criticizes but that is okay. Yesterday she told me I am a mean person (this is the opposite of all feedback I have gotten in my life and, so, hurts immensely).
Bottom line, she asked me never to call her again because I make her "nervous".
She knows I am ill and wants me well, but I am chronic myself. I keep most of my pain to myself. Feel very guilty that I am a bad daughter who is not taking care of my Mom except by phone and financial help and trying to enlit husband and brothers to help out. She will not allow outside (public helpl) into her home... she had a bad experience in the past with that and I cannot afford private care, even if she would take it. Dysfunctional family here so that it is hard to relate to my brothers so we can work together. Two brothers and mysef is all she has. That is more than many, i realize.