I have permanent guardianship, health care proxy and POA for my mother. She's in a nursing home. She said she took neuro-psych testing and is was told she doesn't have dementia, and wants her driver's license back etc. I checked with the nursing home and indeed they did do neuro-psych testing on her - they never shared it with me (see above regarding my status). The guardianship does not allow her to drive. She has moderate dementia, alzh, poor insight, congestive heart failure, small vessel disease etc. Turns out she took the neuro-psych test on 5-22-14. The results show what we expect - moderate dementia etc. etc. etc. Poor judgement, insight, needs prompting for self-care, memory etc. My mother is telling me she can leave the facility any time she wants - but she is on an elopement watch. I have been really good about re-directing her. She irked me this evening and I ended our conversation and told her I had to go home. I really don't want to talk to her right now. Of course, she get fixated on "I have a conflict with my son regarding guardianship" although permanent guardianship was awarded by the court two months ago. I am exasperated. Sorry - it just upset me.
You are in charge of making decisions on her behalf. You know that she isn't going to drive again no matter what she says. You know she isn't coming home. She is where she needs to be.
It sounds like most of the time you can handle this just fine. Tonight you ran out of patience. It happens. Leaving was an appropriate response. Hang in there! And come here to vent whenever you need to. We get it!
If you have been awarded guardianship by the court, you have nothing to worry about. Your papers keep you secure. She would have to hire an atty who would take her case to have the guardianship reversed...
You did the right thing to leave before getting in a shouting match with someone who does not reason well. Good job. Vent here all you want, it's a supportive environment!