Six months ago my mother had a new DOA drawn up and at the same time had an advance directive for health done.
She signed all the parts of the directive that were concerning a living will but refused to appoint a health care proxy.She simply struck through this and would not appoint anyone. I had a discussion with her this morning concerning the need for the health care proxy. My brother should have this, since he lives close and is the only one she trusts. She seems to think because she was able to take care of Dad's medical business when he was sick, my brother and I will be able to do the same. I explained to her we are her children, not her spouse.
Can someone give me a "for instance" scenario where you would have had your hands tied if you had not had a health care proxy? I am getting no where with mom. I appealed to her to do this for my brother, who is very busy and has to work at least 6 more years.
She is very difficult and no, she does not have dementia. Thanks