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She had taken a turn for the worse 2 weeks ago.Fall, infection, surgery on infected foot,ventilator, feeding tube. cardiac issues,,,,,all in a matter of days.We stood vigil at her bedside all day yesterday, I could not sleep and got out of bed at 1am, smoked a cig, then called hospital to check on her. It was 1:08 am.They were getting ready to call us, and were quite surprised that I called at that time. I went and spent 6 hours, just sitting with her.Just got home. Waiting for brothers to wake up and get the ball rolling on arrangements. BTW......it's my Birthday. I wish she could have waited a day or two more. Sad, relieved,and very tired. Thanks for being here for me these 3 years. Would not have made it without my AC family. Love you guys.

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Boni time to let it all go hun - sad doesn't come close but time will heal you I promise. It's weird how we become so enmeshed in our care that we develop that bond that says - I know she needs me now...and you were right. I am so glad you could be with her at the end of her life on earth. Know now that she is free from pain and angst. All my love sweetheart stay strong for the days ahead will test you too xxxxxx
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Dear Boni you were with her at the end even if only in spirit she knew how much she was loved. there must have been a very strong connection between the two of you for her to reach out and you to receive the message. May you be well and happy going forward and we will understand if this is no longer the place you want to visit but you will always be welcome.
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Dear BoniChak,

I'm so sorry for your loss. You loved your mom so very much and she was an important part of your life. I can feel the anxiousness you felt while so much has been happening over the past two weeks for your mom and your family. Hugs to you.

You know the ups and downs of caregiving and I know how important the support can be and how much folks on this site can be of help. Feel good about what you were able to do for your mom and that she appreciated it too and loved you for it.

Now a new bit of scurry will be taking place and then quietness and reflection. You can feel good in reflecting on your life with your mom and how you helped her and loved her so much - now and forever. Losing a loved one is never easy - even when expected and it seems all the good is remembered at that time and so appropriately so.

May the goodness you have provided to others come back to you seven-fold.

God bless you, your family, and be in peace that your mom is home with God again--
LastOne
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To go through so much in such a short period of time had to be devastating. She's at peace. My condolences to you and your family.
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Oh Bon Bon... big (((hugs))) to you honey...just big hugs and a happy belated birthday. So very sorry you lost your mother, it's never easy and hopefully your mother didn't suffer and went peacefully. You have had a very hard year and I hope you are able to find peace with everything that's happened and know your mother loved you. Again big (((hugs)))
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My condolences, Boni. You have a wealth of experience to share, if you care to continue participating here. Best wishes to you in this new phase of your life.
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Boni~I am so sorry for your loss. Your mom will be your angel in heaven looking after you.
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Boni, I am so sorry for your loss. Your mom is smiling down on you and now understands how much you did for her. May she rest in peace.
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Boni I am so sorry for your loss. Your mother is at peace and will be with you always. Thinking of you at this time.
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So sorry, Boni. We know you loved her very much. You did a good job. Big Hug for you.
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I am so sorry Bonni, and my thoughts are with you.
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Bless you!! Just, bless you, both, and all the people who care.
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Oh Boni so sorry.. She was lucky to have you in her life..
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Boni, so sorry for your loss.
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Sorry for your loss, she knew you loved her, please find solace and strength in that to carry on. Be well.
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May ypur mother rest and peace and hope you find peace with your mom's passing knowing she is no longer suffering. Hope you ou stay on with this site and help others based on your knowledge and experience.
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Boni, I too am sorry to learn that your mother has passed but am glad for you, your mother and your family that her suffering has now ended. It seems that everything happened so quickly - there's hardly time to react. I wish you and your family peace and respite as you move forward.
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Boni, my heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. It's been quite a journey.
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Boni, I am so sorry to read that your mother passed. Her fight was a long and hard one, and I know yours was, too. I hope you heal well and get beyond the trauma of the last year. ((((Boni))))
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Boni, I was surprised when I read your news. I'm so sorry. More so since she passed away on your birthday. It's not like you need to be reminded yearly of what happened on your birthday. You did your very best for your mom. I will always remember you two wearing the party hats (which looks like you both spiked your hair like punks.) I'm so stupid. {{{HUGS}}}
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Oh Boni, I'm so sad for you. How many times do we read here that the elder waits for loved ones to leave? So often the case.

I had a friend lose his brother on his birthday. My friend is choosing to look at it as though his brother timed his "exit" to a better place to coincide with a joyful day.
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Oh Boni i am sobsorry for your loss. This is not an easy time but it sounds like your mom is free from suffering. I Wish you peace and comfort over the next few days. You know your mom woke you up to have that smoke! 😇
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