My mom obsesses over things and calls me at work all the time.
Oh someone please help me. I think I am just going to have to stop answering the phone at work when her number shows on caller ID. She has always been needy and emotionally dependent on me to meet her needs, I am an only child so I have no help. She is driving my dad crazy by constantly nagging and insulting him. She has recently discovered Ebay and, last night called to see if she and dad could come over to "get on the computer" as she calls it. I went to see them both on Saturday and Sunday even though I did not want to. I did my duty. I have a full time job through the week, and a lot of housework to do, and homework also as I am pursuing a degree online. I was looking forward to having Sunday night to myself to do a little work and she calls wanting to get on Ebay. so they come over, and she loses a bidding war on this cut glass antique pitcher. She is obsessed over it and won't let it go. She calls me today at work and wants the email of the person who bought it. I said Ebay doesn't give that out, it's confidential. Then she said "well it said it was signed, but they didn't include a picture of the signature - what if it was a fake?" and I replied "then it's a good thing you didn't win it." Then she says "well they couldn't say it was signed if it wasn't, could they?" and I said "hey it's Ebay, people can say whatever they like about their listings, it's buyer beware." Then she asks me how my day is going. I told her I am busy today. Which I am. I have a ton of work to do and an uncooperative database and I have been stressed out at work for the past year, basically. Then she says in this dejected voice "oh...ok...I won't call you again for the rest of the week." Laying a guilt trip on me. She always does this. I have told her over and over that I work in an open office space, have no privacy, everyone listens in on my conversations, and I am not supposed to get private calls unless it is an emergency. I have told her before "Mom can this wait until I get home? I have a computer at home, remember?" and she gets offended because I can't talk. She JUST.DOES.NOT.GET IT. I am about ready to snap. She is 65 years old and always about ready to fly off the handle because of her "nerves." I have already made arrangements to take off on personal days to help my dad get to the doctor because as she said one day, crying on the phone during a call to me at work again, that she "just cannot take anymore." She was always short tempered, self centered and emotionally distant while I was growing up. I never had any friends over because she would explode if they tracked in dirt or we got too loud. She was always pissed off and said "oh it's just my nerves." Now I am in the position of having to be her mother and I do not want to do it. She is also taking care of the paperwork for her mother who is in a nursing home at age 94 with alzheimer's and dementia. Mom keeps saying she wishes her mom would die. I can see mom starting to act just like grandma did years ago and I cannot take it. I am single because she has driven away every boyfriend I ever had. I just want to move to the other side of the country.