Mom is now in hospice -- new issues!
Feel like I've been on here a lot lately with questions ....
Week and a half ago, Mom fell while I was trying to transfer her from commode to her rollator. Not a hard fall, as I had hold of her but could not hold her up when she bent over nearly double. When she went down, the outside of her lower left leg rubbed or hit against the strut of her rollator and she sustained a skin tear about 7 inches long and 4 inches wide on that lower leg. Called for ambulance, she was taken to local hospital ER where it took the med technician about 45 minutes to carefully put skin back in place and suture with Steri-Strips. They had no beds available, but I told them I cannot take her back home as I can't support her weight if she can't stand long enough for a transfer. We had Hospice already scheduled to come the next day to talk with us, so the hospital called Hospice and they sent someone out around midnight to the hospital to get the paperwork done. Mom was transferred to their nearest Palliative Care Unit for 2-3 days for evaluation, and brought back home this past Friday.
Hospital bed was delivered Saturday, she refused to use it, it was Monday before I got her into it. It's so much easier and safer for me to take care of her in the bed in terms of changing her when she's wet, not needing to get her up and down, keeping her feet elevated more, keeping her upper body somewhat elevated to make breathing easier most of the time, etc. She does refuse to have BMs in the diaper, but we've worked out a way for her to fairly easily transfer from bed to bedside commode for that.
Unfortunately, the hospital bed also brings with it some new issues. She wants to sit up ... 30 minutes later she wants to sit up higher ... the bed only allows to sit up "so high" and that's not good enough and a pillow at base of her back does not prevent her slumping. She's not tall (about 5'3") but even when sitting up and back as far as the raised bed head will allow, her feet press against the end of the bed which is uncomfortable when she wants to stretch her legs out straight. She wants her legs raised ... she wants them down a little bit ... no, down a bit more. She wants to sit up on the side of the bed and let her legs hang down ... now she's cold and wants a blanket over her lap for that ... she's still cold and wants her feet and legs lifted back up on the bed under the covers.
It goes on and on. I've got lower back and left hip strain from the struggle getting her transfers done last week before the fall, and I'm getting muscle cramps in weird places. Typically we both take an afternoon nap of a couple of hours each day, and she has interrupted me so often during my attempts at nap time, as well as waking me 2 or 3 times at night that I'm starting to have some noticeable sleep deprivation stuff going on. All the interruptions are about the above-noted sorts of things, to raise or lower this or that on the bed and so on.
She can't use the bed control herself, it is too complicated for her and she'll drive herself nuts if she tries. She was already having problems with the control on her lift-chair which was simple. *I* have some problems with the bed control, not yet sure which arrows address which things, so I know for sure that I can't hand it to her and tell her to set the bed where she wants it without my help.