Mom never sat down with me to plan proxy, POA, etc. and now she's in hospital.
For the past 3 years, since my stepfather passed, I've been trying to reach out to my mom (she lives in the same city as myself) to encourage her to complete the health care proxy, living will, etc. She agreed verbally to my being her health care proxy, but kept putting off doing the actual paperwork. She also became understandably depressed after my stepfather died. The bad thing is this: her hoarding tendencies became worse and she started getting rats. To make a long story short, she is now in a rehabilitative facility after having gone to the hospital because the neighbor found her laying on her porch unable to get up and walk. Many of us have tried to reach out to her, and have told her that she needed help, but she kept saying that she was fine. Now this happened! The house is disgusting. A friend and I started the cleanup process before mom got to this point, but she became 'fussy' about what she wanted thrown out. Now, I can't find her checkbook to help her pay for bills, needs, etc. I went into the house and found what I could (a bank statement, a bill from each company) but no checkbook. The bank understandably can't give me information and only does limited POA, but the lady suggested I become a durable POA. I know some about this, but am on SSDI and don't know if it will effect my finances. Also, I was told that I have to get a lawyer for durable POA but don't know where to start and worry about the fees. I appreciate any feedback from the wonderful people on here. Thank you!