Need tough love. Mom needs NH but my son cares for her and doesn't work and refuses to let me do it.
My son has been my mom's caregiver for approximately 10 years and hasn't worked. She pays all his expenses. The time has come for mom to be in NH however for years my son has fought me over this. I have given up my apartment in senior citizen high rise twice to live with them and help only because I felt guilty. This is a miserable life for all of us. I now see a psychiatrist and it helps but I still can't make myself do the tough love thing and move back to the living I was content with (nothing elaborate). I am poa and medical poa. How do I go about doing tough love? I don't how or who to talk to. I will end up being hated by mom and my son and that will be hard to adjust to. Mom has dementia and it is 99% worse. She falls alot and cannot do a lot of things for herself and now expects us to do everything. My mom is also very coniving, always negative, it is unbearable. She is exactly as her mother was and she placed her mom in a NH because she could not deal with her. I need HELP. I am losing my mind over all of this. I am totally miserable.