My mom is always misplacing things.

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My mom has moderate dementia. She is always losing he purse, keys, dentures, and money, etc. When I am ready to take my mom somewhere, she loses her purse right before we go or she can't find her glasses. My mom has lost her dentures again. This time, I can't find them. She also lost her keys for the third time. I bought a lanyard for her keys and a big key ring for her key, and she doesn't keep it in her purse. What should I do? She goes to Adult Day Care five days a week, and she usually forgets to lock the door. I don't know what to do about the key situation. I keep having to make new house keys for her. My mom usually keeps her dentures on the sink in the kitchen. I think that I will have to make an appointment for her to get new dentures. I don't remember who she has for a dentist. Maybe I should buy something special for her to put her dentures in and put a big label on her denture cup that says PUT DENTURES IN HERE. Any suggestions?


I have similiar probem. Maybe try labels or sticky notes. My mom forgets to read or doesnt see the notes. I give her lots of time ahead to be ready but that usually doesnt help either. She has "safe place" she puts things but forgets where it is and "moves" it. I hope there are better solutions out there......I know the frusration! good luck ......
Is your mom living alone? If she is, it's probably not a good idea. My mom is in the NH and has lost every purse, several pairs of shoes, numerous chap sticks, .I could go on and on. It's just part of the disease. Sticky notes never helped because she forgets to read them. I just stopped buying her purses and lipstick due to her losing them on the first day she gets them. I keep her chapstick in a drawer at the NH and when I go to visit or take her for an outing, I always put some on her before we leave. She can't remember where anything is so, I figure it's my responsibility to keep it in a place where I can find it each time. Has worked so far. She was always a lipstick lady and after several tubes and her losing all of them, I gave up buying them for her. She also goes into other resident's rooms as they all do...and takes things that she thinks belong to her. Now, she has been wearing somebody's watch for over a month and I keep telling the NH people that it's not hers but they do nothing about it. She will "lose" the watch before long...just don't sweat the small stuff. KEYS to house are quite different. Maybe if you do like I did with the chapstick..put them someplace YOU know where they are instead of HER because she can't remember and you can. ?? Hope this helps.
Go to the dollar store, you moms all need to have things to do, think about, carry and then so what if it gets lost? Get more. Can not have them just sitting there with nothing!! Horrible to see this all the time at the home. Montessori type care is the best. Have cheap hats she can wear, cheap breakable necklaces and bracelets, stuffed toys to hold, etc. Use a zip lock to tie on a little bag or purse they can keep their stuff in, on their wheelchair. Clips for their hair, things that twist, or put inside each other, simple stuff to do with their hands, Chapstick (cheap ones) are perfect for your mom. Let them do it their way, don't tell the the "right" way. Mindless sitting is horrible, as you know their mind is working away, thinking of who know what.
I've bought mom all of these things and more to "keep her busy" but she has no interest after 2 minutes. She is a wanderer and walks all day long....ALL day long. I've bought ...well, can't count how many pairs of shoes for her and she loses them too OR someone else comes into her room at NH and takes them as she does the same thing. They do still have a mind of their own ...even if it's not is THEIR reality and you can't argue with it at all...reasoner is broken. I for one do not have the money to keep buying things that last 2 minutes and I use her 60 dollars a month she gets to keep out of her SS check for more shoes, clothes, etc. that she must have. The NH does activities once a week and the residents make little necklaces, etc. out of cheap beads. She will hang on to those longer than anything I've bought her and it's not costing me. Hard to buy her things with no income and waiting on disability to go through.
I have to agree with teachergear1, if your mom is living alone it doesn't sound like thats the best thing for her anymore. It's part of the diease of dementia, things are going to get lost and notes don't help. My 82 year old mom lives with me and I just try to keep up with where she keeps her things. She has lost her hearing aids, purse, combs, her glass of water, name it, she will misplace it. For my sanity I know this about her so I make sure if we are going somewhere or if she is going out I give "us" plenty of time to make sure we have everything together and ready to go. I remember when my Nana was in the NH, Alz. division, she was constantly losing things, picking up other's does just seem to be a NH way of life. We would make a game out of finding her when we went to visit because we never knew who's bed she might be sleeping in! I'm sure the nurses do care but have learned that it doesn't help to tell them over and over, it doesn't even help to put them back in their own bed or give them back their own belongings because they are going to do what they do...
So in closing, I will just say, give up on trying to "fix" your mom and just try to figure out what you can do to make life a little easier on yourself. Hugs to you...prayers with you.
I am seconding (maybe thirding?) the recommendation that your Mom should not be living alone. An ALF will allow her a varying degree of independence while keeping a good eye on her. Where I live, your relative can have a studio or 1 BR apartment. Meals are provided, activities, even trips to shop. It allows for a much smaller area for things to be lost--and found! NHs are usually attached, but at a different end or section separate from ALF. Meals are provided, too. If she likes to walk, sooner or later she will wander off from her (or your) home. It is the most loving thing you can do for her, and for yourself, at this stage.

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