My mom lives in my home and she thinks one of the caregivers steals. This girl is my stepdaughter and definitely DOES NOT steal.
My mom has some dementia (undiagnosed, but I have seen the decline), and she misplaces things. Then she thinks that my stepdaughter has stolen them. My mom has two more caregivers--companions for her--she only needs moderate care--and she never accuses them of stealing. When I try to defend my stepdaughter, the exchange goes VERY BADLY. I do not feel I can agree with her, even though that would probably be easiest. I feel agreeing will just validate her and she will accuse my stepdaughter even more. There is definitely no stealing going on--it is all in her head. My mom is relatively normal with most issues, except for this matter. I do not know how to diffuse this situation when it comes up without having a major confrontation. I am becoming majorly burned out by this never ending point of contention. Any ideas from anyone out there?