Mom lives alone and no family members live near here. How to help across the miles?
My mom is 92, healthy in every way. She has been widowed since 1984. My brother lives in another country; I live 2200 miles from my mom. My mom lives alone in her home; still drives; runs all her own errands; cooks her meals from scratch; she is really doing well. But the fact remains, she is alone in her house with no family members near her. Within the last 6 months, she has fallen 3 times. She suffered a few bruises, but no broken bones or serious injury. This last fall; she had to wait a bit before she could feel the strength to get up off the floor. My brother and I are deeply concerned now. She is now getting a medical alert system in her home now. We visit her more often, but its not the same as being near her. I have asked her to move in with me, but she is very independent; and frankly, she wouldn't like all the hustle and bustle of my family life. She is very organized and my home is not so organized. That would drive her up the wall! Plus weather is a factor with our harsh winters. In spite of our different lifestyles, I still invited her to come; my family was/is ready to make adjustments. I even suggested for her to move into some very nice senior residences here so she could still maintain her privacy and independence and she would be close to me where I could visit her and be with her weekly. She won't leave her home. My brother says I should pack up my bags and leave my family, my work, my home and go live with my mother as she has done for us and sacrificed for us plenty throughout the years. Now it's our turn. He is trying to get back to the States to work and live; however he is pressing me, making me feel guilty because he says its easier for me and to think of Mom. She is at the end of her journey as she says, and time is of the essence. My brother is divorced. Sure he is working but so am I. He has no family ties where he's at...it's just him. Is he right? Should I just pack up my things and move 2200 miles away from my husband, adult children, grandchildren, quit my job that I hoped to retire from in 5 years? My husband still works and my income is needed. Help!!! Need advice.