Mom just died - more difficult than I thought.

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She died yesterday. I was happy about it. For both our sakes. She stressed me out for many years and she didn't even live with me. But I'm having an emotional reaction to her death anyway. Not grief, but feeling shaky, nauseated, not myself, etc. And I have to deal with my brother and his trust also. Barbara


So very sorry for your lose. God Bless you and yours
Barbara, I'm so sorry for your loss. Of course you're feeling upset. That's completely natural, no matter what kind of relationship you had with your mom. Take care of yourself and try not to make any big decisions for at least a few days.
This must be so hard to go through. Many of us have conflicting feelings about our parents just as you do. It will take some time to sort this out. My condolences and best wishes to you.
My condolences again, Barbara. Google "ambiguous grief".
Hadnuff, my heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. On one side there is relief, and on the side the feeling of loss. Everyone reacts differently.

What you're going through is totally normal for your situation. In fact, I'd be worried about you if you weren't aware of what you're feeling and why. Give yourself quiet time & space to process your feelings to help you come to peace. Stressful "business" stuff can be on a back burner until you feel up to it - don't let anyone pressure you to make decisions right this minute. God bless you. My sincerest condolences on the loss of your mother.
Barbara, I am happy for the relief to your mother and to you. I am sad for loss. This is a bittersweet milestone, isn't it?

I imagine that part of your reaction now includes some anxiety for responsibility for handling things for your brother (let us hope for a brief period) and simply the big change in your life. Even good changes can cause us stress. Kind of like missing hiccups for a while after they are gone!

Hugs to you. Your reaction sounds very normal to me.
Barbara, Death is never easy under any circumstance. What you are feeling and experiencing is perfectly normal. It's called "Grief". Weeks after the funeral, reality sinks in and it's hard. In time your grief will be replaced with all the memories and you will be able to smile again. My thoughts are with you.
((((Barbara)))) Just wanted to send a big hug and tell you I am sorry.
{{{Barbara}}} In all of our thoughts hun xxx

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