Mom has severe COPD and osteporosis and all the ailments that go along with it, she is very frail and has had 3 breaks so far. Had to go to the hospital over the weekend as she couldnt breath good and too weak to get up. Its looking like she will have to go back to a nursing facility for rehab and possibly longer if we cant get someone to stay with her during the day. I cant afford to pay for someone and we all have to work and just today got her on a waiting list for a CAP worker that would come in a few hrs, this is so heartbreaking and frustrating but i dont know what else to do.
If the NH doesn't do well by her, that's another thing. It can't be perfect, because nothing is. Try not to nitpick, but don't accept abuse or neglect. I hope you will find that you have turned your moth over to people who will love her and keep her safe and comfortable.
Our loved ones in a facility need us to advocate for them - and the best way to do it is to spend TIME at the facility - meals and during the day - to see how well she's tended to. Seriously. I pop in at irregular times - and every time I do, well, usually, I see my Mom is well tended to.
What else could you do? She must need constant supervision and you are not able to do it.
If you decide to accept that this is the best decision for everyone's circumstances--especially her physical limits--it will go much better for her.
Don't resist the logical deduction; go with the flow:) xo