My Mother hasn't left the house in years. My Dad can not take care of her anymore. Need Help!
My mother, who is in her late 60's, has had severe depression/anxiety issues as far as I can remember. She never leaves the house, unless its for a Dr. appt. I am 37 years old, and have never been anywhere with my mom, not to a store, a restaurant, school functions, you name it. She also doesn't drive.
It's hard to put into words everything that has been going on all these years, but my main issue now is that my Mom wont take care of herself and my father doesn't know what to do with her anymore. He's in his mid 70's.
She has become severely overweight, hunched over and walks with a cane, I cant tell you the last time she combed her hair (years...not an exaggeration), she smokes, stays up all night on the computer and sleeps all day. She isn't keeping any of her Dr appt's anymore and refuses to get treatment for her psoriasis, which has gotten really bad. She never calls or visits her family, which is literally right next door. Sometimes, if I go visit my dad, she wont even come out of her room, unless my dad forces her.
She hoards everything in her room. My dad said its disgusting and cant even walk in there without tripping over piles of stuff. It's almost like her room is her own world.
She sees a psychiatrist every 6 weeks, which does no good. It has not helped at all.
Years ago we had an "intervention" because she was on a lot of pain medicines and wouldn't even get off the couch. She went into a rehab facility for a few weeks and had a little improvement after that. She was taken off some of her meds and was leaving the house to shop, eat out, etc. Shortly after, my sister passed away and she has regressed back to her old ways. Though shes not on all the meds, she still takes some. I know she takes sleeping pills.
I don't know what the next step is. My dad doesn't know what to do anymore and us children do not know how to help him. He never tells us the whole story either, so I know things are far worse than I'm describing here. Can I have someone come into the home to see how she lives, to evaluate her? My dad has left a message for her psychiatrist, but he never returned his call. The receptionist mentioned he may not be able to because of confidentiality laws. Its frustrating because that Dr is not helping her at all and will not (or can not) give us advice. Any advice on how to deal with this will be greatly appreciated.