My Mother (67) with MS is going to a nursing home, the guilt is killing me!
My father with caregiver burnout, no longer can emotionally or physically take care of her at home! My sister nor myself have homes that can accommodate her full time! We both have young children at home, full time jobs, and spouses that are strongly opposed to letting either one of us care for her 24/7! We got her in nursing home 3 days ago, it's been an awful transition for her, the staff, and U.S. So far! My mom is very demanding and can be very difficult! At same time she needs to be because she can't use her body anymore all she has left is her very intact mind and mouth! We r trying to go visit as much as possible even showering her cleaning her room and setting it up to look and feel like home! There have been several muses aides who have told her "your not at home this is a nursing home and we cannot give u care like u were getting at home so get use to it! I'm a nurse of over 25 years experience and when I heard this I wanted to go in with guns a blazing! But don't want to rock boat and make things worse! The guilt is killing me and how to handle nursingbhe staff at this point is difficult!