My mother has been complaining that I do not spend enough time with her. I explained to her that I have to work and that taking her to medical appointments are a priority. Me and my big mouth! Now she has decided to make her health and well being a priority and setting up all kinds of preventative care appointments. She is even talking about getting cataract surgery she previously decided not to have. Her agenda-getting me to spend more time with her using healthcare as a motive. I never meant not seeing her unless she has a medical appointment, only that was more of a priority. re all elderly mothers this cunning? I am ready to blast off in a spaceship to pluto!