Will wonders never cease? Mom finally accepted Assisted Living.
I write this for those struggling to get a stubborn parent into Assisted Living. I took care of my mother, who lived in her own home, for 16 years. She had great needs right from the start and she did not anyone but me getting groceries, cleaning house, shoveling, yard work, driving to doctor, helping when her colostomy bag broke, emptying bedside commode.....you get the picture. I was working full-time at the beginning, lived 5 miles away, and my life was hell. Every little bit of outside help was a battle. I'd hire, she'd fire. After a series of events last year, she landed in a nursing home for rehab. I refused to take her home and booked a room in AL. She called me every kind of awful. Accused me of lying, stealing....nasty nasty. When she moved in she was horrible to staff. I feared she'd be kicked out. They were great. Eventually she settled down but continued to pout about her situation. Recently I have been very ill and have not seen my mother for nearly a month. I talk to her on the phone. Yesterday I told her what a comfort it was to me to know she was safe and cared for while I recovered. She actually said she was lucky to be there and how good she was treated. Never, ever thought I would hear the words. So if you have a stubborn parent, believe things can change. It won't be easy but if my mother could turn around nearly anyone could.