My 83 year old mother suffered a traumatic brain injury three years ago and does not want anyone telling her what to do.
now that my dad has had a severe stroke(5 months ago) and will not be returning home. I am the only child that lives near my mother and have seen some issues that make me concerned for her safety. Although my siblings agree, they do not want to make her angry and want me to manipulate her into doing what needs to be done. I am not good at manipulating and feel that it is insulting to my mother's dignity. She lives alone and drives to places that have too much traffic. She keeps food too long and does not take medication as she should. She has some excellent days but has many difficult days regarding her ability to make safe decisions. I love and respect both of my parents, but I also know that sometimes others need to step up and help.I am tired due to trying to visit my father on a regular basis, my job, and my own family's needs, so I may not be seeing the situation clearly and would appreciate the advice of others. Sadly,talking about issues is not an option in my family.