My mom continues to let her husband control all her money and has been skimming from her for years. What can I do?
APS & the FED bankers got involved, Help? I am my mother's middle child and have a special closeness with her. She met a man after divorcing our father and we began to worry from the very start. She was living in a beautiful home in Newport Beach and he was living on a friend's boat. So she moved him into her home! They are heavy drinkers and everyday was a party day because no one had to work. My father was very generous with my mom when they got divorced. And it made her a perfect target for some scumbag looking for a meal ticket. My mom is very naive and my dad did everything for her. She is now 79 years old and her mental capacity is rapidly declining. My sister, brother, 3 aunts and one uncle have all seen her physically in person and agreed that my mom is not doing well. But nobody really knows what to do. My mom takes a lot of prescription medication, drinks daily, has fallen several times and has some diminished mental capacity. So it's hard to determine why she can't remember anything and acts completely confused when we talk about her finances. My best guess is that if we could wean her off these meds, stop drinking and then do and evaluation she would be in much better shape than she is in right now. Of course, I would need her cooperation to do this and she refuses to. Assuming her mental capacity diminishes even further and faster then I need to get a copy of her most recent trust, will, advanced healthcare directive and POA. I tried to get social services involved the last go around and they paid mom a visit but she had calmed down by then and her husband put the fear of God into her to keep her month shut. The Banks filed SAR's (suspicious activity reports) and I thought I would hear something there. But we are at our wit's end. Bottom line: I've been told that without my mom's cooperation there is not much we can do. Last resort is involuntary conservatorship and going through the courts to gain control over her health and finances. I soooooo don't want to do it.