Mom's cognitive impairment and her spending habits.
My mother is 84 has cognitive impairment with some early dementia. She lives by herself, doesn't have a lot of money so I try to keep her on a budget. I think she is sending money to my sister who has been taking money from her since she was 17 yrs. old, now 49. When I take her to the grocery store she is throwing in the cart anything she gets her hands on whether she needs it or not, by the time we get to the register she has spent $60 or more and this happens 2-3 times a week. Her fridge is stuffed to the rim and ends up throwing the food out because it expires. She calls her doctors office and orders pills for anything and everything and makes appointments, I take her to these appointments at least 3 times a month. She wants to be in control of everything and I understand that, we have arguments when I try to comment of these things. She complains to my siblings and gets each of us against the other. I do have POA, my older sister thinks because of that I have complete control of my mother, just the opposite. She lives out of state and doesn't hear or witness how my mother truly is from day to day. I feel I bend over backwards to make mom happy, do what ever I can, whatever she asks me to do only to get complained about to my siblings. Mom did go to my sister's home for a trial stay but she wanted her own apartment close to me, I don't get it, why? So I did what she asked and now my life is hell to say the least. Sometimes the stress from her and siblings are too much to handle. Why would she want to live close to me and constantly trash me to everyone and make me sound like I'm just a cab driver. Just wanted to vent. Anyone else out there with like situation?