My Mom calls every night. I feel guilty if I don't talk to her.
It's same questions - same issues - it's like her day starts over - everyday. My Mother is in a nursing home and has been for 4 years now. She endured a Traumatic Brain Injury in a car accident 22 years ago and my father, her husband was killed in that accident. She is now 80 years old, suffering from multiple issues including the TBI, dementia, congestive heart failure, she is blind, cannot walk on her own nor feed herself on her own. She is hard to understand when she talks and everything is driven by panic and anxiety. At least once a week she calls me to tell me she has gone blind (she has been blind for 10 years). She wants to go home, which I understand - she believes she is perfectly healthy - the list goes on and on. Every time we talk which is around 3-4 times a week, it is an hour plus conversation about the very thing we talked about the day before. Nothing changes. I know she can't help it and it must be awful to relive that every day, but I'm so tired of going through this. I feel guilty saying that - if I don't answer, she just calls and calls until I do, then gets upset with me because I don't answer the phone. Those calls nearly ruin my evenings and my plans. I just hate feeling this way, but I don't know how to manage this. Has anyone else been through this - suggestions or thoughts?