Mom and Dad could run out of money for AL, end up in some horrible state run NH.
I'm back in Richmond to move my folks to a memory care unit here. I drove back last week, its been really emotional and difficult. I can see how they've both declined, They've been stuck in this horrible rehab nursing home, because they can't go back to their house, neither can care for the other any longer. I went to look at the memory unit the attorney picked out I hated it until I spoke to the staff. I think the staff made the difference I pray they'll care compassionately for them. I'm all over the map the drive up took me two overnight stays, very cold in those mountains. Thank God I took the northern route as all lower southern states took the hit of the ice storm. The move is unorganized as I'm overwhelmed at the stuff inside the stuff my mother kept through the years. Still trying to get the money for the vehicle my father totaled and additional medical. Now Medicare is saying they won't cover mother any longer in the temporary stay nursing home I can't bring her back to their house because I'd never get them out of here that attorney is afraid they won't leave. I couldn't care for her will she's here very will as I'm burning out myself. We've had some good visits they are easier to be with now since dad's been medicated he's not as scary when he doesn't get his way. I can tell both have declined further since September 2013. I have no idea how I'm going to get this move organized assisted living space is so small. It's going to be a challenge with my dad he's angry about being locked up I get that however there is no choice. I was told that 3 years ago dad left he house late one night in his night close then went to a neighbors house they had to bring him home. Why couldn't someone have told me this in August of last year? It's no ones fault it's just frightening and exhausting. I'm deeply grieved about all that has transpired for them and myself. Lots of memories, however the anger is gone towards them which is a blessing they're so helpless. I just wish I didn't have to put them in a lock unit but they will care for them better than I could as I'm about ready to collapse! Best wishes to you all I've missed not checking in Hugs to all!