I'm 72 and I know that my mind is slipping. I have some suggestions for anyone dealing with an aging loved one.
I'm 72 and I know I'm slipping. But so far still able to live on my own. Things not to do... Don't tell me, "I already told you that." after I ask a question. If I remembered the answer I wouldn't be asking the question. It's frustrating because I'm being reminded that I'm slipping and I also didn't get an answer to my question. If I start to tell something I've already told, it's okay to say, "Oh yeah, I remember you telling me that." and then for heaven's sake, please be willing to talk about the subject I just brought up so I don't feel so dumb. If I'm struggling to remember a word, it's okay to furnish it for me. Treat me with respect and not as a child. Love me and be there for me. If I do end up in a home, come see me. Even if I don't know who you are, I'll still know someone is there, even if it's just for a moment. My mom, my grandmother and all my grandmother's sisters had dementia so I knew this was coming and have taken steps such as getting the POA's done and letting them know what I want ahead of time and put it in writing. Making sure my will is in order, who to call, stuff like that. And most important... It's not going to kill you (although you may feel like killing your loved one) to listen to the same stuff or being asked the same question over and over. Just remember, it could be your turn to have this next. Think how you'd want to be treated.