Manipulative and Lying Parent
I suppose others have posted about this but living this is a very difficult thing. My dad perhaps was always covertly manipulative and there were many lies he told prior to his diagnosis of dementia. But now, he is a full blown manipulator and lies readily to serve his manipulative ways. I have been his primary caretaker/ coordinator of care for the past year (since diagnosis) and I have had to take a step back and let my siblings take over because I can't keep up my life, job, children and take care of him. He is honestly like a 4 year old child or younger in mentality. He told my siblings recently that I never come to visit him. And yet I am there every other day and have devoted countless hours to taking care of his affairs (bills, food, etc). I know he was lying to garner sympathy but a part of me is so angry that I just want to give him what he has lied about it. If he tells others I never come and see him, then why should I? I think I am burned out and exhausted but right now the lack of gratitude has just infuriated me. Any advice from someone who has lived this would be greatly appreciated.