Mad about mom's mail!

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Yep, I am fed up with my mom's mail situation. When my dad was alive, my parents were always very generous--giving to reputable charities regularly; but since Mom's been diagnosed with dementia, she's donated (by check) to various "charities" and political entities who've unfortunately sold her name to others. She's donated money and paid for magazine subscriptions that she has no business ordering ("Country Living"---she's always been a city girl!...."Taste of Home"---she doesn't even remember how to cook anymore! AND here's the kicker: she's been receiving "Rolling Stone" magazine---OMGosh! LOL, for sure!) She just doesn't realize what she's doing; that her money is not going to the good old reputable charities from her past giving. Now her mailbox is jammed full of "bad mail" at least every few days---and the overflow mail goes behind the counter at the check-in desk at Mom's place of residence---for me to pick up when I visit! I've already talked with the management at her assisted living facility and had them change her mailbox number so that only my Mom and I have keys. The post office and everyone else still think that she has access to her old P.O. number. I am only able to visit my Mom about once a week---I have the key to her old mailbox, so I go through her mail and "weed" out the bad stuff from the "good". Most every week, there is only bad mail----and TONS of it!! Over 3 months ago, I filled out the opt-out form on the direct marketing association website, and she is STILL getting all of this junk mail! I am so frustrated by these pathetic political schemers and money-grabbers that prey on the innocent elderly. Does anyone have any ideas as to how I can eliminate all this disgusting mail? By the way, my sisters who have POA, were able to change her checking account over to just a savings account, so Mom won't be able to send any more checks when the money runs out of her checking account. I feel bad because my sisters and I, as well as the employees at her residence have had to lie to my mom that the Post Office was responsible for changing her mailbox number. She was extremely mad about the whole thing, initially; but I think that since she hasn't received all that mail, she is sort of beginning to forget about it. I know that God will forgive us for having to finagle around the mail and money situations--we are just trying to protect our mother from those awful buzzards who would love nothing better than to receive more of the money that my dad worked so hard to provide for my Mom's care after his passing. Which, by the way--she's 86, and in pretty good health other then the dementia, thankfully! P.S. My sisters and I have agreed that we don't want to change her mail to come to any of our homes, because we'd still be in the same situation---getting all of that nasty junk mail in our own boxes!
I am tempted to start sending the junk mail back to the people who sent it, but I'm not sure if that is an option? If you have any suggestions, please let me know. I would also like to hear of anyone else who's been in this situation, and how it's been resolved---if at all. Thanks!! Sincerely, MaMM

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One thing I noticed whenever I get multiple donation requests from one place, one envelope will say F. Flyer.... another will say Freq Flyer... and another Frequent Flyer. Thus, wherever the donation places are buying their mailing list, the mailing list companies are not scrubbing the information.
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If you forward her mail to your home, junk mail cannot be forwarded if it isn’t first class mail, the PO just tosses it. That would stop it from coming..just make sure those mailers don’t get your address. Magazines will however still be forwarded for a period of time..
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You just hit a nerve with me! A couple of weeks ago, I went through the piles of magazines and mail in mom’s apartment and sneaked out something like 19 solicitations for money. Red Cross, Disabled Veterans, Lung Association, Salvation Army, Heart Association, Cancer Society, but the biggest offender was AARP. OMG! AARP is mailing her at least twice a week! Since that day, I have taken more solicitations from her apartment each time I visit. I bring them home, stuff the contents into their return envelope, write on the donation slip, “PLEASE STOP! Mother is 97 and has no money to give you! Moving to nursing home! REMOVE HER ADDRESS FROM YOUR MAILING LIST!” I highlight it in yellow. I don’t mind paying the postage if I can make the mail stop. Some organizations I have sent these back 3 or 4 times now. I don’t care, I will do it until they stop or I really get mad and write to the CEO. (Which is what I’m doing with AARP right off the bat due to who they are supposed to be and the blantant barrage of mailings from them!)
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I called the mail order catalogs and told them my MIL that lived at our house is now deceased. This helped stop lots of junk but we had to call each place individually. Good luck!
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I totally can relate. My mil ordered so many magazines it's ridiculous. Maybe she thought she'd win the publisher clearing house lottery- idk! We switched their address at the post office to our home temporarily when they went into nh. We know get mens fitness, and muscle magazine and many other ridiculous magazines consider mil and FIL age. FIL uses a walker- plus we received the Most Disgusting porn ads for male enhancement. We put an end to that rt away!
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Hahaha! Good one Windy! You the man. Blessed insoles oh "Mother of Pearl!"
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Good story Boot SG. Years ago a buddy of mine send my name and address to a crazy tv preacher as a joke. For years after I would get mailings with bizarre "Prayer AIDS". My fav were paper insoles the good reverend had blessed. Of course you had to send him money to get them activated by a special payer, but then you'd be safe from all evil.
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My Aunt died and we had a yard size trash bag to pick up at the post office. Psychic letter mail was hilarious to read. Some of the envelopes on the outside said go into the kitchen to open this letter. Then you pull it out and there was a" prayer " mat. Um...this was a paper placemat from a restaurant. It would say kneel down and face North. What kind of far-fetched crapola was that? While very funny reading, we were horrified that older people really get that junk in the mailbox! It made me sad and furious at the same time.
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My favorite was the psychic who sent a letter a couple months after my brother died offering to help him "have the best year of [his] life"
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Some years ago I had a person tell me that instead of putting whatever into their prepaid envelope and sending it back, he would mix things up a bit. He would put X's stuff into Y's envelope and have a good laugh thinking of the confusion on the other end. Sounded like a good plan to me.
Just imagine the credit card company getting the solicitation for cremation or cryogenic services.
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