I'm new to this site although not new to computers and researching on them! I'm a caregiver, can you tell?!!! My mom is 90, extremely independent, has been a widow for 35 years on Dec. 5th. She has macular degeneration and glaucoma but can still read in the daytime with lots of magnification and light. (We bought her a VideoEye about 10 years ago which is helpful.) She would "die" if she knew how dirty most parts of her house are now. Has always kept an almost immaculate house. Her master bath toilet was so filthy but I never dare clean something that takes me away for too long because she says, "What are you doing?" She's always very defensive when I tell her something needs to be cleaned or I am "caught" cleaning something. "I just cleaned that the other day, or I clean this on Thursdays, or I can't believe how quick these things get so dusty, etc."
I tell my sister but she has the same problem of getting "caught" if gone too long. When we were all their to put up her Christmas tree, I told my sister to start cleaning the toilet then I would take over so we weren't gone long! We don't want to hurt her feelings!
I try to go when it's at least two of us there so we can do like that but it's not always possible. I say things like, "I know you are having trouble seeing things like this, so let me help..." what do other suggest? Thanks! (Her grown grandchildren don't even want to eat there anymore unless we take something and use paper plates). I'm an RN and I tell them, cooking will kill the germs and you can bring your own utensils! LOL. She did let me clean her kitchen sinks real well when she was going to prepare some food for Thanksgiving. I tell her to run her hand all in the sink after she cleans because if it's all slick she has most likely gotten it clean. She did tell me she did that on some things. YAY!