My grandpa has dementia. In his world, he believes he is not invalid and is independant. He will not bathe because he believes he has done it already, he refuses help from me; for awhile he wouldn't eat my cooking because he can prepare his own food; he forgets to brush his teeth use mouthwash (his dentist bill was $812 most of them were fillings and palliative care); when I try to help him he gets mad and pushes me away. he calls me names and verbally abuses me. i am his full time weekday caregiver and it is the most challenging and difficult "job" i've ever had. i often walk around his house in trepeditation fearing that he may snap at me. he has threatened to hit me. he won't get out of the house unless he has a doctor's appointment or has church. i have to lie to him just to take him to the park to get some fresh air and to look/feed the ducks and he often asks why he needs to be there and I just say it's for physical therapy. i often to have to lie to him to get him to function and for him to get out of the house. am I a bad person for lying to a person with dementia? sometimes I question my faith and if I'm going to get punished in the afterlife for "lying". of course, I won't know until I get there. thanks for the vent.