Lung cancer, I feel so guilty right now for not speaking up.
Hi, I'm new to this site and have been reading questions and answers. Thank God for this site. My mom is 74, and yesterday they told her she has a "softball size tumor" on her right lung. Softball size! Next week, on Sept 5th, we have an MRI of the brain to see if any cancer is there. Same day, only later in the morning we have a P E T scan. A biopsy is scheduled for the 9th.
Needless to say, we are all shocked. She had been to the Dr., a couple of times with pain in her right shoulder. Oh, the Dr., said it was muscle related and needed therapy! No x-ray. The first time we went to the Dr., well, let me say that she has Alzheimer's. So the first appointment, she told the PA that it was her left shoulder. I said, Mom, you've been saying it is your right shoulder. She kinda got upset and said, "it's always been my left shoulder." She had years ago, Rotator Cuff surgery on the left. So I said ok mom. Well, they x-rayed it. After I asked. Few months later, we went back and I said it's the right shoulder. The actual Dr., pushed and pulled and said, I think it's muscle related...no x-ray. I should've spoke up and said please x-ray her.
This is the same Dr., who for the past 1 1/2 year had been seeing me for a broken pelvis. So, I kind of believed him. WHY DIDN'T I SPEAK UP AND DEMAND AN X-RAY??? WHY DIDN'T HE DO ONE WITH OUT ME ASKING???
I am so angry right now about that and I feel so guilty for not speaking up. I am heartbroken.