My loved one still inspires me.
I must admit, I feel rather silly. I've been on these boards recently talking about my loved one, who is my cousin. She has advanced Vascular Dementia mixed with AD. She's in Memory Care and is wheelchair bound. She's still verbal, but doesn't have much to say. She's recently been losing weight, though, she eats well. Most of the time she answers a question, but doesn't have much to say. She normally says she doesn't remember or doesn't know.
I decided to take her lunch yesterday. I normally don't do this, because the facility provides her with tasty and nutritious meals and snacks. I called ahead and cleared it with the staff to being her and her roommate lunch. They thoroughly enjoyed it and told me how thankful they were. I'm going to do this more often.
Later I put up some photos of her favorite idol on her closet door. He's a professional wrestler and she has loved him for many years. We then walked out down the hallway where she noticed a mop and bucket. She said, "You know, while I do love my favorite wrestler, I also think of a lot of them. (She meant the maintenance staff.) Because they are special too." I almost lost it. How can someone with her level of dementia have such INSIGHT! I said, "Yes, they do a very important job" She said, "Yes, they do and they are so nice. They are really good people."
I recall that the man who cleans their floors once made a comment to me about my cousin. He was concerned, because she had been anxious and crying. I told him that I knew and that we were addressing her medication adjustment that should make a big change. (Which it did. She's no longer crying or anxious.) I told him that I appreciated his concern.
We never know where angels are and who may be looking in on us and our loved ones. I just wanted to share my story. It really warmed my heart.