Love notes from caregivers who have lost someone.

Whoa, not IN MY PRIVATES, but IN MY PRIVATE BACK! Lol! Get your minds out of the gutter! Lol!

Gershun, I don't know if psychics are real, and I have never been to one, but I do get a lot of feelings that my parents are still here with me. Not all of them are visual, most are a buzzing sensation in my ear, or just a feeling or a sign. I use my childhood house number 341,as my lucky number, and now for some reason, to me when this number pops up, and IT DOES, frequently, IT'S THEM! I don't know why, it just IS, and for many years now, 12. I also sit outside alone in my very private and sit in a meditative sort of state, and I feel them about me, I don't know that I'm particularly sensitive to this sort of thing, but I do. I talk to my sisters and they say that they feel the same thing. Several times, I have had the feeling, in bed, that someone has sat on the bed besides me, I actually feel the bed sink in that spot, its was freaky at first, I was scared, especially if my husband was not home, and other times, he was right there sleepy next to me. I thought there might have been a break in, and that burglars were in the house, now I think it might be them, as there is no "person" there. I'm not afraid of this anymore. That would be something my Dad would do, checking on me. My Mom is the buzzing I get in my ear, lol! Its not a traditional buz, more like a bugs wing, thanks Mom, lol! I Love a good Dream though! ☺

Stacey I've had many dreams of my Mom since she died. Some good, some bad. But its always nice to see her! My Dad passed when I was a child so I never have dreams of him. But I did have a dream shortly after my Mom died and she, my Dad and my late brother were all together in the dream. I felt like it was a message telling me that they were all together again.

Gershun, I Love when I see my parents in my dreams! Weirdly, it's usually one or the other, never together. Some of my dreams have been creepy, like the one that I had where we were waiting around in a crowd, for my Father's funeral, but there was a group ahead of us in the church, or building, which was open on all four sides, and up several steps. All of a sudden, a group of men wheeled my Fathers casket up to go into the 'church", and then the lid popped open, and my Dad was trying to get out. I helped him out, and he was naked, someone gave me something to put around him, and I practically carried him over to this table, that magically appeared, and he asked for water. We gave him water, and then it was time for his funeral, and these people were suggesting that he get back in the coffin, but I woke up fighting thim! Weird huh! I Hate that dream, but have Never forgotten the images or the storyline in my head, now years later. I much prefer nice dreams of times from the past! Dreams are weird!

Wisteach, I am reading...here for you, still up. Checking back tomorrow, will follow your posts. Love, from Send

Sorry I guess I didn't look for the latest posts, was teary eyed and my phone was blurry....

It has been so long since someone posted here....is anyone reading?

Sendme2help...Thank you for starting this discussion.Thank you for caring about people who are hurting so much and giving us a place to vent our thoughts and feelings without our beloved loved ones.Gershun...What a gift to see and be with your Mom,even if it was in a dream.I bet that is very comforting to you.
I am thankful that I had Mother as long as I did,but I was never ready for her to go.She was so sweet(most the time)and she had her mind and we shared every secret and I am so lonely and lost without my dear best friend....To all,Take care....Lu

There are no words. This goes out to the heaviest heart, with love.

Lucky, Stacey and all who are missing their Mothers this holiday weekend, my thoughts are with you all.

I was invited to have dinner with my brother this weekend but am just not up to it. My Hubs is away and its just me and the kitties.

I had a dream about my Mom last night. In the dream we were at some carnival and every time I saw her she was off in the distance talking to someone else. I kept waiting for her to be free so that i could talk to her. Finally the man who was monopolizing her company stood up and looked at me with a motion to go and see your Mom. There was this little alcove. It almost looked like a seat on a ferris wheel. Mom was sitting there and she motioned me to come over. I went and sat beside her, put my head down on her shoulder and just bawled my eyes out. I didn't say a word. It was like all the sadness and despair I have been feeling since she died just came pouring out. My Mom did not say anything. She just let me bawl.

I don't know what the dream meant if anything but its always nice to see my dear, dear Mom in my dreams.

Thank-you Send!

Love to you too, G e r s h u n !

Hope, Stacey, Gersun, and Luckylu,
Love to all of you on this Easter!
from Send.

Ahh Lucky, I'm sorry you are struggling through these firsts without your Mom by your side! Please know that it is often like this for all of us who Love our parents so much, and then lose them. It is one of those steps through the grieving process, and it will get better with time, and you will be so grateful that she left you so many memories of her, especially in those holiday collections. Remember, she may very well have even thought about you with each and every purchase, that one day, after she was gone, that you will have this to remind you of her, not that you needed 50, lol, but just that it may comfort you in the years ahead. God bless her! I know that I treasure every little silly thing that I have to remind me of my parents. It's a good thing! Love to you as you are going through this time! Stacey B

This is the hardest Easter of my lifetime.I miss Mother So much....On my 5th Easter growing up,Mother helped me start a beloved rabbit collection.Through the years and Easter's,they really multiplied and now I have so many at 55.And so many memories attached to a lot of them...but without Mom,it's the end of that too.Tomarrow I am joining a church and I wish so bad that Mom could be there.I'm so lonely without her.I can't talk to my husband or my 2 brothers at all and I lost my 1 friend because she got tired of me never being able to do anything with her.I am grateful for this site.Just heartbroken and venting.....

Sendme2help...That's a beautiful poem.Thank you.

Amen!

A. P o e m:
Do not stand at my grave and weep. I am not there, I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow. I am the diamond glints on snow. I am the sunlight on the ripened grain. I am the gentle autumn rain. When you awaken in the morning hush, I am the swift, uplifting rush of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft stars that shine at night. Do not stand at my grave and cry; I am not there, I did not die. -Mary Frye

And there are those who know their loved ones were instantly in the presence of their God. Love, from Send

Sorry for your loss, dear Reverseroles.

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Ahh Send, thats So Sweet! It is Awesome to remember them in the Healthy Years! I know that so many of our Caregiver Community here have lost their parents, Moms and Dad's this past year and it is the absolute roughest time in our live, figuring out how to go on, without them, and especially if the had a long, painful and lingering disease like mine both had, but you do eventually move forward in your own lives, just as they would have wanted you to! You can't at first believe that you can, but you will! I promise that you will! As much as I miss them, they were the ones to show us how to move gorward, in losing their own parents, our Grandparent's. So, like we always try to set good examples for our own kids, in the way in which you handle every aspect of your life, including loss, sadness and grieving, this is how we learn, and then teach, the cycle of life. It always gets better

Gershun and Stacey, I understand that you loved your parents very much. I guess love spreads, or is catching, or something heartfelt.
My mother passed about 25+ years ago. Today, because of your good words for your Moms, I can say that I loved that my Mom sang 'Somewhere Over The Rainbow' to her children.

Nyah and Katie, so sorry for your loss. Love from Send

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Happy New Year greetings, to those who are not forgotten in your struggle, recent loss, best wishes for the new year, love from Send.
I would list your names, but would not want to leave anyone out.

There is another year, anything can happen! Take heart, know t h at you are loved

Stacey and Gershun, thinking of you at Christmas!

For Hope, who has lost her dear Mom just before Christmas,
Sending love and prayers for you.

For you, who have lost someone and today is Thanksgiving, your first holiday without that person, you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Xxx

For Drummergirl