Living together isn't the right thing, not sure what to do next.
I posted many weeks ago about not adjusting well to my parents living with me. I took them in after my dad had a health scare, naively thinking their hoarding and other issues would magically dissolve. I know, silly,huh? Anyhow, dad had another health scare only this one ended up much worse. He had to have a below the knee amputation and has been in rehab the past month. Medicare has said "No more" so now we are looking at him coming home, with a nurse coming twice a week, or him going to a nursing home as a medicaid pending. On top of all this, mom has congestive heart failure,sleep apnea, and is morbidly obese(367 lbs and 5'4"). I believe she is also severely depressed, but she refuses to be medicated at all. I have tried and tried to get her to apply for medicaid, or some kind of low income senior housing, but she refuses to do anything--shower, go to the doctor, etc--without me pushing her. I am so tired. I am starting to slip into depression myself, and it's starting to affect the way I interact with my husband and two young children. I have no family other than my husband and kids, and I'm not sure what to do. I am waiting for a call back from the area agency on aging to see what I can do.