Just wanted to introduce myself and share my story.
...After being estranged from my mother for the past 4 years, the good Lord has choose me to be the main one to oversee her care. She is 86 with advanced dementia, she had a physical last week and her body is top shape for the most part. She’s never been on meds until THURS when DR prescribed Trazadone to aid in her sleep. (HOPEFULLY) She lived with a "guy" that took advantage of her and her finances these past 4 years. He conned her into marriage which kept family and H & W hands tied. The courts gave my sis & me guardianship/conservatorship in JULY. These past few months have been a challenge to say the least; doors have opened right when I wondered what are we to do? We found an ALC a mile from my home, and moved her in 10 days ago, the management is subpar, and the aids are good except for a couple. She is able to have her own “studio” that allows us privacy and I’m able to work on her body to help unwind her nervous system. She is VERY restless and hasn’t had but one or two full night sleep since we got her. (Who knows how long it has been?) I know it takes time to meld into a new environment, I hope she can settle down because I’m not sure that she will be able to continue to be at this facility. She sees a Geriatric Psychiatrist tomorrow that hopefully will shed light on what might help her to calm down.
In my search to find a place for her to live I’m saddened at what little training there is for memory care aids. If I hadn’t volunteered these past 2 years at the Veterans home and spent many of hours on the memory care unit I know I wouldn’t have been as prepared as I am to help her.
Lord willing we can take the con to the cleaners in the divorce and recover some finances and most importantly get him for neglect.
Thanks for letting me share; I have read post over the past months that have helped me.
Blessings on ya all. ~M