Boundaries v Keeping the Peace.
My father is in an ECF for rehab following surgery. I live across the country but have been calling daily. He has been unusually weak and we haven't spoken much. There are some relatives he speaks to daily on a normal basis. However, since his recovery isn't going quite as planned, he has asked me to call them daily and say everything is fine since he doesn't want them asking questions and saying the wrong thing." I said I was uncomfortable with this as these aren't relatives I ever speak to on the phone and it looks funny for me to be calling daily. He said if I don't do it I'll make it more difficult for him. He has always been secretive and I'd like to just tell the relatives no news is good news. That I'll call if something arises but not daily just to say he is fine. I agreed to do it this week so as not to stress him more, although it stresses me more. Thoughts?