I'm new to this caring for my 73 year old father. Honestly not by choice, as I have chronic neurological head pain disorders, 4 children and we homeschool. At least ok m happily married and my husbands awesome. It's a long story, aren't they all LOL, but I took him in after my oldest alcoholic sister got my father who WAS a recovering alcoholic then relapsed in her career all the time...she just kicked him out , in the rain. Really! He has severe degenerative eyesight from lifetime of drinking. Beginning of dementia , or Alzheimer s, I don't know.
He's just not right. Has never been there for my 4 older sisters and I, now I'm taking care of him. He's living with us now, but I don't know if I should try and and get him his own place. Or if he can even handle it or afford it. He will end up drinking himself to death and gambling all his $. He's an old race horseman and wants to live next to the race track. It's 20 miles from me and it would be betterif he could get an apt close to me where I would be willing to pop in a few times a day , bring him over for dinner etc. I'm just overwhelmed and venting. To top it off, I've got a 4 no old baby latched on me all the time, my oldest and I have the flu, dad just had surgery to take cysts off his back which will be sent out for biopsy. Oh and my dog had seizures this morning. Ha! Oh boy God sure thinks I can handle a lot I guess!😨 I'm just confused. Don't know where to begin getting all the needed power over him etc. I know he's best with my familyand I compared to other sisters, that's for sure. We are stable, loving and not alcoholics or anything like that . I guess one day at a time? Blessings to you all and strength is needed for this journey, I'm sorry so long.