Every Sunday night my mother and I watch two TV shows together. One is Joel Osteen on TBN. Tonight Joel talked about the importance of setting boundaries. He talked of people who ask a lot of us, and who ask more and more. He talked of how these people can make us put our own lives on hold and how we give up our happiness in order to keep them happy. As my mother watched, she asked, "Am I doing that to you?" I didn't say anything. She listened more and said, "I am doing that to you." I don't know if she'll remember the show tomorrow, but I hope it helps her understand why I say no when she asks me to do just one more thing.
I think people of the group would get a lot out of the show. I found it excellent. The take-home message is that it is good to be useful, but not good to be used. It is okay to help other people, but there is a limit. No one owes their own happiness to another to try to make them happy. Some people will just never be happy until they find it within themselves.