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I had interviewed another lady to help with Mom every other weekend in order to give me a break and to also be backup in case one of the caregivers gets sick, needs time off, etc. She is a small woman, and while I was concerned she wouldn't be able to help lift Mom from chair to bed, bed to chair, etc. I was willing to see how strong she was and had her come and be with one of the caregivers to learn the routine, etc. That was on Thursday. I talked to potential new lady Thursday afternoon and all seemed fine. I got a call from her on Saturday and I didn't receive message until late last night (I have a dumb phone). Anyway, I called her a few minutes ago and she told me that current caregiver told her that I was uncomfortable with a small person taking care of Mom and that I had someone there before who was also small and wanted more hours and I quote "that isn't going to happen". The potential new lady said she prayed about it and was uncomfortable working with Mom if I had a problem with it. Current caregiver also told her that it would only be for 2 days a month...um it isn't up to her to decide when potential works!!! So, in other words, current made potential not want the job!! I called my sister to tell her and her advice was to tell current that potential decided it wasn't worth her time for 2 days a month and how I really want more time with my family. It is going to take all I can not to go off on current but I need her! She wants to go and visit her daughter in about 6 months for 2 weeks and I need someone to take her place...and guess what? It may be permanent if I can find the right person!! ARGH!!

Thanks for letting me vent!!!

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Oh, dear. I see the position that you are in.

Can your mom go to a facility, for 2 weeks?
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No she can't. She doesn't qualify for Assisted Living and I don't think she would go to a nursing home for 2 weeks. I am going to call around and try and find someone. If nothing else, my sister will have to come down then and help, if she will.
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if your letting the dishonest current caregiver climb atop of your head just because you need her you arent being true to yourself . your taking the path of least resistance .
example ;
a local newspaper editor butchered my writing for years because her personal / religious beliefs were contrary to my message about the injustice of the nations war on drugs . she would openly taunt me about how ive been edited again .
a few years ago she saw some of mine and my sons stonework and wanted to do a news story complete with some product pics . she called me on the phone and was told to cram her news spread straight up her square a**..
i dont roll over just because the circumstances might benefit me ..
conviction .. not negotiable ...
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If current is that much of a gossip, then what is telling people about your mom. I would keep her until I found someone new, who isn't a gossip. Just put her on probation in your head.
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suspend her for a week for discussing proprietary information without the authority to . that will either run her off or remind her who works for whom .
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