As a caregiver how would you answer this question "If only my parents/mom/dad had..."
None of us want to become a burden to our kids like so many of the parents we read about here have. But I'll bet you that not a single one of these parents wanted to either and yet, here they are.
Surely there's something they could have done before they reached this stage that might have eased some of these burdens we're reading about.
In my case, I wish my parents had realized they would need the help of at least one of their three kids as they got older and moved closer to one of us. When mom got sick lived states away from any of us and it was hard on dad. We all had to stop our lives and take turns helping her "die" with dignity.
So when my husband retired, the first thing we did was move close to our daughter. We also have bought a lot nearby and have a 5 year plan to pay off our current home and to build a new smaller one level home on that lot. We plan on making this home as senior friendly as possible. In 5 years my husband will be in his 70s and I'll be 65...so hopefully we'll be doing this soon enough.
Hopefully some of us will take this discussion to heart and make an effort to take steps while we can to help ease our future caregiver's burdens.
So what do you wish your parents would have done in the past that might have made it easier for you to help them today?