I was about 3 years ago, I was a house manager, which was also involving caregiving.
One of the women, as this was a house that the husband and wife rented rooms out month by month to people. She is 33 years old, and I have known her for 6 months. I do not want to appear negative, but it is hard to tell a story without the truth.
She unfortunately has Cerebral Palsy Ataxia (I do not know that much about it, other than the unsteady gait, the tremors, and that it is something that she probably got while her mother was pregnant.
She just moved in 1 year ago, and I have been assisting the current house manager as to how to rent rooms, etc. hence, this woman and I have developed an acquaintance. No caregiving.
There are many odd parts to this story, and honestly in my mind do not add up.
The mother of this 33 year old woman, now has told me that she does not want her daughter back The reason she kicked her out was "tough". That came about when the daughter, clearly is not able to hold down a job, and make about $400.00 per month just to put her head on a pillow. The rent at this house is $600.00 per room, and I know the landlord has allow me to basically write off 1/2 of the rent, as he owns the house.
She was working, and never showed up for work.
She did know when to get a Doctors note not to get fired.
, as I said was the House Manager (I am in the process of training another person to focus more on my other positions), and was caring for another woman at the time, but this woman was very much alone, (the 33 year old with CP - Ataxia) and of course being in the compassionate field of caregiving, we all have huge hearts.
This woman has many negative issues, so I found a hospital and she was admitted into their Behavioral Health Unit for one week.
I know that everyone appreciated that, as her constant demand for others, and the needs that she has, the way she goes about it, the lying, the excuses, the overuse of medications, not knowing what is truth or false, etc.
What I am wondering is this? Could someone educate me on this, as I have read much about it, and do not know if this is normal common behavior for someone with this, or is this something that she is very capable of doing.
Unfortunately she, at times will drink alcohol.
Why am I involved. The mother does not want to talk to anyone in the house, and says do not send her home (as I said about 6 hours away), her father passed away early, and honestly, this is not my problem nor my issue, but, my DNA is a woman with compassion and knowing the difference between honestly caring, and showing someone a different approach, vs. enabling, and I feel I am merely educating myself.
How, and where can I find some assistance through the cerebral palsy Ataxia Center or is there such a thing, and are these symptoms, or is there a lot that is being stated or created because of the disability. She has admitted she is lazy, she lies, and she does nothing but lay in bed when she has any chance she can get. That is absolutely true. She has a door with a lock, and always is sleeping.
I have been the manager of this house, and am/was in charge of rent, and she has been for the past 6 months incapable of working enough hours for rent? I am not the Landlord, but before he steps in, the compassionate me in the world, would like to know more about this Disease, and how to assist her. He is in the process of evicting her, and is an Attorney, and I really want to stay out of that part.
I have very few precious hours left in my 24 hour days and she is starting to text me all of the time, with "hi", and then that is it. She is always slurry with her words, and my question is at 33, how can se be living independently, and it is unknownn why her mother feels that tough love was the best. I have to remember and be sensitive to the family that she belongs to that has pretty much abandoned her. Please note, this is for me to be educated, and yes we as caregivers all have hearts, and for some reason those with issues, mental or physical seem to fall on our laps, and I know in my case, I was kind to her. Simply nice, and that was something foreign to her.
I became a caregiver because my mother fell ill to Alzheimer's Disease. That is one that many of us know well.
I guess it is, or I would like to know as much as I can for this woman as she has many psychological issues as well and I am not sure if they are from CP = Ataxia. She lives in Washington State, and I know online there are many support groups, but is there a way, someone can jump start me on anything I can offer her as far as advice. I just cannot allow someone with this unfortunate situation to really take up tons of time, and please understand I am not being selfish when I state that both my mother and father are days away from leaving this world, and I told her I would just type this on agingcare.com.
As caregivers, we need (and I know all too well), when to stop and realize that too much is too much.
Thank you with love for all that understand.