I am new here.
I am new to this group and being a caregiver. My struggle today is this: How do I find the balance between what I feel and know my Mom needs and yet still have her feel like she hasn't lost her independence? I am getting resistance from her in some decisions I've made, like trying to get her a home care provider. She was insulted and very upset about it, that she wouldn't speak to me. Granted it was more for me then for her. I am simply looking for a way to get some help, from someone anyone. I am afraid to leave her at home alone, so it has gotten to the point that my life has been completely put on hold. I'm afraid to leave to run errands, or spend the day with my son because I don't trust her to be alone for hours at a time. I just want her to trust me. To trust my judgement and to trust my intentions. I do not want to make her feel less than or that her feelings and wants do not matter. I do not want to make her feel insignificant. I feel like I am making her unhappy. I do not know what to do